Conscious relating
For couples who want to connect more deeply and in truth and are willing to face what gets in the way of that connection.
In a connected relationship lies an enormous potential for personal growth. Intimacy is the most important condition in this. Without intimacy, very little happens in the path to true maturity.
About intimacy in your relationship
Connection, intimacy and a satisfying sex life are only really possible when we can bring ourselves fully into the relationship. Only then can we truly relax. Only then can we truly meet each other.
Bringing yourself fully into a relationship is easier said than done. We like to show our nice sides to each other, but those less attractive sides? Jealousy, indifference, the (sometimes "unjustified"?) criticism of the other person? In our busy lives with full schedules, we often choose the easy way out: we keep it to ourselves and don't bother the other person with it. Perhaps because we know that this can lead to complex dynamics, which often do not improve the atmosphere.
However, this mechanism of "keeping to ourselves" comes at a high price. Every time we do not express something, do not bring something into the relationship, we close ourselves off from the other a little bit - often without realizing it ourselves. Over time, you may still be having a great time, but something is lurking beneath the surface: irritations, sudden outbursts, moody behavior. Perhaps the most valuable indicator is your sex life. You may already feel a little uncomfortable reading this. Maybe you still make love, but mostly after a drink. What about gentleness and eye contact during sex?
Sharing our vulnerability in the space of connection is the key to true intimacy. Welcoming ourselves and our partner into an atmosphere of openness and love of truth creates true connection.
For whom.
Does joining then mean that it would not go well with your relationship? Not as far as we are concerned. Your interest says little about the current state of your relationship and all the more about your willingness to deepen and strengthen it. That willingness is admirable and shows courage. There is no fixed formula for a good relationship; you determine what works for you. We are happy to facilitate your exploration of it.
Our pathways are valuable if you are willing to open up and long for freedom and truth together, no matter what. Are you ready to meet beyond the boundaries of your egos?
The process is guided by myself and my partner Janneke (breath coach, de-armouring practitioner, plant medicine facilitator). Together we represent the embodiment of the masculine and feminine aspects in a relationship, we find that works very nicely with couples.
Why
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Break patterns
This track helps break through stuck patterns.
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More connection and understanding
Understand how misunderstandings occur and where the need lies.
3
Come closer together
Improve intimacy and sexuality.
For each phase
Even if your relationship is not going well, this process can be valuable. Our goal is not to preserve the relationship at all costs, but to guide you towards a healthy and fulfilling connection, regardless of the outcome. It is about reconnecting, discovering what is truly important to you and growing together, both as a couple and as individuals. This process focuses on strengthening your relationship, whether together or separately. We also guide you through challenging situations, such as divorces or forming a blended family, to ensure that children do not get caught up.
What are we going to do?
In this journey, we explore and create a new way of being together. An opportunity for both of you to show yourself to the other. In a safe, casual environment. Without having to worry about the usual dynamics. In this process we gain insight into how misunderstandings arise and learn to recognize and indicate needs and boundaries.
True intimacy occurs when you allow yourself and the other person to be real, to be vulnerable, to not know everything and to expand your horizons.
Practical
We will work with exercises to explore the field of truth. These exercises are not designed to solve problems or achieve any particular goal. The exercise creates space for truth, and it is truth that liberates. By practicing regularly, you slowly build security and trust in your relationship. Trust that both of you can make space for the truth, in whatever form it presents itself.
What we do in the sessions is a combination of coaching, breath work, systemic work, tantric practices and "conscious relating tools. It may be that we use all of these, it may also be that we use some of these tools. In addition, it may be that at a certain time it is good to do an individual session but we determine that in the moment. We tune into what your connection requires.
For example, a trajectory might look like this:
Session 1: Commitment
Session 2: Connection - seeing and hearing each other
Session 3: Polarities - feminine & masculine
Session 4: Honesty - speaking your truth
Session 5: Desires
It is nice to schedule a session every 2 weeks to stay connected to the process.
We may also give you exercises to do at home. The course of 5 sessions costs € 2500. You can always book more sessions or individual sessions.
Options for couples
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1 session Checkup
For if you want to get a feel for our way of working first....
A 2.5-hour session guided by Janneke and myself in which we go directly into depth and you have a powerful opportunity to explore the relationship through sharing.
€500
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Private Pathway
Private program of 5 weeks in which you and your partner are guided by Janneke and Mewis. A combination of coaching, breath work, systemic work, tantric practices and conscious relating tools.
€2500,-
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Couples Journey
A joint adventure for you and your partner. Together with two other couples, we explore new ways of being together. 3 sessions of 4 hours. A combination of coaching, breath work, systemic work, tantric practices and 'conscious relating tools'.... PLUS the option to work with plant medicine in this journey.
€900 per couple