Conscious couple Pathway

For couples who are ready for a deeper connection and are willing to address what gets in the way of that connection.

In a connected relationship lies an enormous potential for personal growth. Intimacy is the most important condition in this. Without intimacy, very little happens in the path to true maturity.

True connection, intimacy and a satisfying sex life are only possible when we can bring ourselves fully into the relationship. Only then can we truly relax. Only then can we truly meet each other.

This track is designed to deepen the connection in your relationship. We work with the most powerful methods we have discovered on our path of conscious relating; coaching, breath work, systemic work, body work, meditation, tantric practices and 'conscious relating tools'.

We create a safe and open space where you can meet each other in a new way. Behind the veils, in truth, connection and love.

Getting the most out of your relationship

Bringing yourself fully into a relationship is easier said than done. We like to show our nice sides to each other, but those less attractive sides? Jealousy, indifference, the (sometimes "unjustified"?) criticism of the other person?

In our busy lives with full schedules, we often choose the easy way out: we keep things to ourselves and don't bother the other person with them. Or we step over something ourselves that has actually struck a sensitive chord. Perhaps because we know that this can lead to complex dynamics, which often do not improve the atmosphere.

However, this mechanism of "keeping to ourselves" comes at a high price. Every time we do not express something, do not bring something into the relationship, we close ourselves off from the other a little bit - often without realizing it ourselves. Over time, you may still be having a great time, but something is lurking beneath the surface: irritations, sudden outbursts, moody behavior. Perhaps the most valuable indicator is your sex life. You may already feel a little uncomfortable reading this. Maybe you still make love, but mostly after a drink. What about gentleness and eye contact during sex?

Sharing our vulnerability in the space of connection is the key to true intimacy. Welcoming ourselves and our partner into an atmosphere of openness and love of truth creates true connection.

This trajectory is for you if:

  • You love each other a lot but there is little intimacy

  • You take each other more 'for granted' than truly appreciate each other

  • Your sex life is at a low ebb

  • You always end up in the same patterns

  • There is a lot of space for work and family, but little time for each other

  • There are unspoken things that repeatedly lead to underlying irritation or anger

  • You feel you can and want to get more out of the relationship

  • You live alongside each other and experience little connection

  • There is (has been) a breach of trust through, for example, cheating or falling in love

  • You receive more interest from other people than from each other

For whom.

This track is designed for couples who have a desire to strengthen and deepen their relationship. This does not have to mean that your relationship is going badly. Perhaps you are ready for the next step or a new way to connect. The willingness to embark on a journey together is the beginning of a change. We feel admiration for that.

Additionally, there is no set formula for a good relationship; you determine what works for you. We are happy to facilitate your exploration of it.

Our pathways are valuable if you are willing to open up and long for love and truth together, no matter what may happen. Are you ready to meet beyond the boundaries of what you are used to?

Guidance

The process is guided by Janneke (life coach, breath coach, bodyworker, facilitator) and her partner Mewis (process facilitator, breath coach, de-armouring practitioner, Wim Hof instructor, systemic worker) Together they represent the embodiment of the masculine and feminine aspects in a relationship.

Mewis and Janneke both have a great love and fascination for conscious relating and have come a long way with challenges, awareness and insights in this. They live with 3 children in a blended family.

In their practice "the Essence," they create a place where they can share their passion and wisdom. They both walk the path of self-exploration and awareness, conducting sessions, workshops and programs both together and individually.

Methodology

We do not offer traditional couples therapy. This path evolved from our work in various disciplines (coaching, breath work, body work, systemic work) and our own path of conscious relating in which we have found that what works for us works very well for other couples.

We have a buildup, but primarily work with what occurs in the moment.

In this journey, we explore and create a new way of being together. An opportunity to make space for both of you to show yourself to the other. In a safe, casual environment.

Our presence ensures that usual dynamics are uncovered, but do not erupt into argument or discussion. In this process, we gain insight into how misunderstandings arise and learn to break patterns and recognize and indicate our needs and boundaries.

True intimacy occurs when you allow yourself and the other person to be real, to be vulnerable, to not know everything and to expand your horizons.

Practical

Conscious Couple Pathway, including:

  • 5 sessions of 2.5 hours, preferably every 2 weeks

  • Guidance from Janneke & Mewis

  • Interim Whatsapp support

  • Emails after each session

  • Assignments for home

€ 2500

Paying in installments is possible.

Sessions take place on weekdays in our Practice 'de Essentie' at Koekoeklaan 14 in The Hague.

Why?

1

Break patterns

This track helps break through stuck patterns.

2

More connection and understanding

Understand how misunderstandings occur and where the need lies.

3

Come closer together

Improve intimacy and sexuality.