Transformational Guide for Men
Are you often stuck in your head and have you lost touch with your body and feelings? Do you have everything pretty much in order outwardly, but are still missing something deep inside?
You're not alone, man.
Instead of endless talking or floating, I take you on an adventure. A powerful journey with all the tools that have been important to me in finding my place in the world. A place from which you can feel yourself, with enough peace, presence and an Intuition you dare to trust.
For whom:
Your current life feels safe and comfortable, but with it, boring and predictable. You lack the passion and fire in your life.
You lack real direction and direction in your life. You know you have much more to offer, but you have no idea how to harness it or bring it out.
You would like to create peace and relaxation in your life and feel that this requires more than just some lifestyle changes.
You carry all kinds of things with you: old wounds, unprocessed emotions, traumas, blockages and limiting beliefs.
You're in your head a lot.
You seek distraction and numbing to avoid feeling. You have tried many things to feel better, but always end up in the same unhelpful patterns. In your head you know it all too well, but somewhere you feel that the real change is not to be had in that area.
You are ready to take responsibility and take on things ín yourself.
You realize that there is no quick fix for your challenges, and you are willing to embark on an in-depth, long-term journey. What's more, you prefer something that offers real staying power, rather than separate training or courses.
My toolkit
More than a coach or therapist who tells you how to do things, I am a Guide; a guide who shows you the way....
I give you back what I see and share with you the knowledge I have gained over the years. I show you the way if needed but rather I give you the tools to find it yourself. I make extensive use of the following:
Breathwork - The breath allows me to quickly read you at a deeper layer. Where is it free and where is it not yet flowing? In addition, breath is your most powerful tool in finding the way inward.
Bodywork - The body knows. Even if your head doesn't understand (yet).
Systemic work - Constellations are an effective and powerful way to reveal unconscious patterns and help you see how certain patterns in your life stem from your family system
Cold training - The cold as formidable master. The ultimate mirror. Relentless, glass clear and gold fair.
Meditation and presence - You are not your thoughts and beliefs. You have thoughts and beliefs.
Polarities - The masculine and feminine energy present in all of us. To what extent is it balanced in you?
Why I love doing a journey with you
I am a certified multidisciplinary breath coach, systemic worker, de-armouring practitioner and ice bath coach.
But at the same time, none of this is what I am. For although they are all enormously powerful instruments to quickly get to the core, they remain mere tools. Without clear direction and intention they often do not lead to much more than simply another experience.
My goal is to bring about lasting change in the lives of the people I work with. My contribution in your next step into a new way of being.
What does working with me look like?
1. Intake
This can be done online or in person. In the latter case I will receive you in my practice in The Hague at walking distance from forest, dunes, beach and sea. In a conversation we look at what themes are important to you and what your needs are. Afterwards you will receive a short report of our meeting and a proposal for a possible follow-up.
2. Intent
Based on my proposal, we start a trajectory together. A trajectory consists of several sessions in which we formulate an overarching intention. What is it that we want to create in the trajectory?
3. The sessions
I receive you in my practice in The Hague or we meet somewhere in nature, depending on the nature of the session. Possibly we start the session with some exercises to get in touch with your body.
4. Integration
The most important work happens outside the session. In your life. The moment a great experience in a session does not lead to a lasting improvement in your life, it is not integrated and therefore of limited value. Therefore, to ensure this, I provide a period of about two weeks between sessions. After a session you are given "homework" to practice and apply at home. In addition, I always offer you the opportunity to keep yourself "accountable": what can I hold you to? For many irritatingly confrontational and super powerful in creating your desired life.
Enumeration:
The sessions take place in my practice in The Hague within walking distance of forest, dunes, beach and sea.
A session lasts an average of 2 hours.
2 ways to start...
Free Intake
The purpose of this conversation is to get your needs clear. At the same time, you get information about how I work and we both get a feel for the possibilities of working together.
For whom. For anyone who is interested in working with me but would like to get a little more of a feel for me and my way of working.
What you get: A 1-on-1 meeting with me, online or at my practice in The Hague. A chance to ask questions and tell your story. Afterwards you will receive feedback on my observations from the meeting with no obligation advice on a possible follow-up.
Price: €0.
Duration: +/- 30 min
Full breathing session
The hands on introduction. Also nice if you are not such a talker. A session in which we get to know each other and have the opportunity to go in depth right away. Beyond the story.
For whom. For people who prefer to experience first. We determine the desired content of the breathing session based on pre-specified wishes or the information from the preliminary interview.
What you get: A profound experience. A chance to ask questions and let me look at what is going on in your system. Afterwards you will receive a report with my observations and a proposal for a possible follow-up course.
Price: €200.
Duration: +/- 2 hours
About male and female energy
This is a track for men. This is specifically because I myself am a man and there are some collective issues that we men can only address with another man. My work focuses primarily on putting men in their masculine power. However, to this end, a lot of attention will also be paid to developing the feminine energy. After all, one does not go without the other.
Male and female energy are powers we all possess. They are not exclusive characteristics of men or women. Some may have more masculine energy, while others may have more feminine energy.
Male energy represents strength, purpose and action. This is the energy that helps you keep your commitments and get things done. It supports you in making decisions and turning them into action. Male energy is stable and focused on one goal.
Perseverance
Action
Target
Analytical thinking
Structure
Stability
Discipline
Female energy is softer, more intuitive and creative. This energy is cyclical, constantly moving and flexible, making it less predictable than male energy.
Intuition
Empathy
Creativity
Softness
Flexibility
Feeling
Playfulness
The issue is not which energy is more important, but how you balance these forces. Too much male energy can lead to excessive pressure, stress or even burnout. On the other hand, excess female energy can cause indecision and a lack of discipline to achieve your goals. This track will teach you how to play with these energies and make them work for you.